Dementia and Alzheimer’s: The Challenges of a Caregiver

It is 5:23 AM in the morning, this is the third time that I’ve been up with my mom who is increasingly deteriorating from vascular dementia and Alzheimer’s. “Oh God please God what is happening to me”, my mom says. “Did I do something wrong, am I going crazy? Please God, help me.”

Present day, my mom has to wear adult diapers with both urinary and bowel incontinence.  She is extremely embarrassed by these set of circumstances. She says, “I am an  89 year old woman, I am not a child.”  There are times when I hear my mom wish for her own death rather than continue to deal with the hand that she has been dealt. It is an insidious disease that creates havoc and makes it difficult for both the individual and the caregiver.  If not for a loving husband and sister who pitches in, I think I would have a nervous breakdown.

Carethey Wooten

It is difficult for me to watch, a once a vibrant strong African-American woman who is now confused, scared and extremely fragile. Here is a woman who said to me as a child, “You must always walk with pride and dignity because when you walk down the street you are carrying Negro womanhood with you.” She meant it because she lived it. In 1968 when there was a major teachers strike in New York city, she was one of the many parents who kept the schools open teaching their children. It was a strike that lasted several months not several weeks.

It was a strike that led many parents to fight for parental control in their schools. It led to something called decentralized schools. Almost 40 years later, the mayor of New York City used sensationalized anecdotal information to gain control of the schools once again. My mom spent almost 30 years in the school system as an assistant teacher working with difficult children teaching them to read. Not only did she do this for a living, she would tutor neighborhood children. There are many children that can point to my mother, including my own son, as the one responsible for them enjoying reading today.  Not too long ago, I even met a position on my job who pointed out my mother has keeping him on the straight and now. He said your mom was Mrs. Wooten, Mrs. Wooten, Wow she used to keep me in line and grade school. I was a real menace at that time.

You would think that having worked in behavioral health care for 10 years, I would have the requisite skills to be a caregiver and deal with my situation. However, when working with your own family, it makes it that much more difficult. I am now about to take caregiver training classes on dementia from the agency that provides home attendants for my mom.  It is my hope that this training will further my knowledge of this disease and provide the much-needed coping skills I need as caregiver.


Obamacare Website is Now Prepared For High Traffic Demands


When Apple releases a new iPhone or iOS version, a consumer can expect long lines, wait times, and some bug fixes in the future. Why should it be different for the product roll out for Obamacare? On October 1st at 12:01 AM, the Affordable Health Care Act went into full implementation where Americans could begin signing up for healthcare plans using the federal exchanges. Massive traffic flocked to which could not handle the surge by 7 AM over one million viewers had visited the site. As a result, the uninsured was force to continue in their wait for answers.

According to USA Today,

U.S. Chief Technology Officer Todd Park said the government expected to draw 50,000 to 60,000 simultaneous users, but instead it has drawn as many as 250,000 at a time since it launched Oct. 1.

Park’s comments are the administration’s most detailed explanation for the glitches that have frustrated millions of consumers who have tried to enter the site or complete applications for health insurance under the Affordable Care Act.

“These bugs were functions of volume,” Park said. “Take away the volume and it works.”

The administration built the site’s capacity based partly on the all-time high of 30,000 simultaneous users for, an existing site where senior citizens can buy or renew prescription-drug plans under Medicare Part D, Park said. Its theoretical maximum capacity hasn’t been disclosed.  Read Full Article

Since the launch, many experts believe the high traffic demands to is people seeking information about the new healthcare law as result of misinformation being promoted by those who oppose full implementation. However, there are many sources out there working to provide correct information. The website Addicting Info did a comprehensive article tackling Obamacare myths.

There’s a lot of hype going around about ObamaCare, and by now you are probably getting mixed information about what the law actually is and how it will affect you.  The purpose of this post is to lay out the basic facts in plain English so you know exactly what to expect as this reform takes effect over the next few years.  However, before we get started, allow me to clarify a few very important things about the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act, otherwise known as “ObamaCare.”

  • ObamaCare will not use your tax dollars to fund abortions

  • ObamaCare is not and will not lead to a government takeover of health care

  • ObamaCare will not increase the national debt or deficit

  • ObamaCare does not hurt health insurance companies, but actually increases their business

  • ObamaCare is not unconstitutional

  • ObamaCare is not  socialism

    Read More was taken offline over the weekend in order to increase its load capacity as well as improve some design flaws. If you tried last week and was deterred by the inability to sign up, don’t give up and try again.

The Department of Health and Human Services have put together videos, webinars, tool kits, and state by state fact sheets to help you better understand the changes being implemented. View all resources using this link: .

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