A while ago, I was talking to a friend, another Executive Director, and he said, \u201cHave you noticed that everyone is getting paid to engage us communities of color except us communities of color?\u201d\u00a0Sigh. Yes, I have noticed. I\u2019ve been thinking a lot about this, and have come up with a term to describe it.\u00a0Trickle-Down Community Engagement (TDCE). This is when we bypass the people who are most affected by issues, engage and fund larger organizations to tackle these issues, and hope that miraculously the people most affected will help out in the effort, usually for free. In Seattle, if you\u2019re a person of color and you walk down a dark alley late at night and you feel like you\u2019re being followed, it\u2019s probably someone trying to do some community engagement. \u201cPsst\u2026hey buddy\u2014Go Hawks!\u2014you want to attend a summit? It\u2019s about economic inequity. We need your voice.\u201d \u201cDaddy, I\u2019m scared!\u201d \u201cStay calm, Timmy; don\u2019t look him in the eye.\u201d \u201cCome on, help a guy out! Here, you each get some compostable sticky dots to vote on our top three priorities! You can vote on different priorities, or, if you like, you put more than one dot on\u2014\u201d \u201cRun, Timmy!\u201d This is why you should never take your kid down a dark alley in Seattle. There are several reasons why TDCE happens. First, the nonprofit sector has all sorts of unwritten rules designed to be successfully navigated only by mainstream organizations (See \u201cThe game of nonprofit, and how it leaves some communities behind.\u201d) Second, 90% of funding in the nonprofit world is relationship-based, which screws over marginalized communities, who have much fewer relationships with funders and decision-makers. Third, due to existing definitions, many organizations led by marginalized groups \u201cdon\u2019t have the capacity.\u201d They\u2019re \u201csmall and disorganized,\u201d they are \u201cnot ready to be leaders in these efforts.\u201d Fourth, community engagement has been seen as the icing on the cake, and not an essential ingredient, so it is always last to be considered. Fifth, many funders and decision-makers focus on sexy short-term gains, not effective long-term investments. Look, I\u2019m not saying anyone is intentionally trying to discriminate against certain communities. Everyone is well-intentioned. Diversity, equity, inclusion, and cultural competency have risen to the front of people\u2019s minds. Organizations are scrambling to talk about these issues, to diversify their board, to get community input. That is all great and all, but it has only been leading to marginalized communities being irritated and frustrated. Every single week, we leaders of color get asked to provide input, to join an advisory committee, attend a summit, to fill out a survey. Because of this well-intentioned mandate to engage with communities, we get bombarded with requests to do stuff for free. Trickle-Down Community Engagement is pretty dangerous, for several reasons. When people who are most affected by issues are not funded and trusted to lead the efforts to address them: It perpetuates the Capacity Paradox. The Capacity Paradox is when an organization cannot get significant funding because it has limited capacity, so it cannot develop its capacity, which leads it to not being able to get significant funding, which means it can\u2019t develop its capacity. This greatly affects organizations led by communities of color and other marginalized communities. And then they can\u2019t be as involved, which leads to ineffective efforts to tackle issues. (See \u201cCapacity building for communities of color: The paradigm must shift.\u201d) It\u2019s annoying as hell. In every single issue, I keep seeing larger, well-connected organizations getting significant funding but are not effective at engagement. So they pester us smaller ethnic-led orgs to help. I was asked by a collective impact backbone org to be involved with planning a summit to engage communities of color. I advised them not to do it, and told them that I\u2019ve been to far too many summits that suck (See: \u201cCommunity Engagement 101: Why most summits suck.\u201d) Next thing I knew, they organized the summit anyway, asked my organization to help with outreach, and asked me personally to translate their outreach material into Vietnamese! All for free, of course! (\u201cRun, Timmy!!\u201d) It\u2019s intrinsically wrong. We, above any other field, must act on the belief that people most affected by inequities must be leaders in the movement. It is the right thing to do. Imagine a group of men leading an effort and making important decisions on women\u2019s issues like reproductive health, and then asking women to come give feedback at a meeting. Or a bunch of idiots who don\u2019t know anything about science leading a committee on climate change and asking scientists to come testify about global warming. These scenarios are ridiculous, which is why they happen in Congress. Most importantly, it doesn\u2019t work and is even counterproductive. If TDCE actually works, then we\u2019d have little to argue about. But it does not. Well-intentioned but useless and sometimes even harmful stuff get voted on and implemented. For example, at a meeting I was invited to someone said, \u201cWe need to put 100% of funding into early learning instead of splitting it among early learning and youth development\u201d and I had to remind them that \u201cMany immigrant and refugee kids get here when they\u2019re older than 5, so they\u2019d be screwed if you only invest in early learning. We need to support the entire continuum of kids\u2019 development.\u201d (See \u201cYouth Development, why it is just as important as early learning\u201c) Unfortunately, by the time a mainstream organization finally gets to that community feedback forum or summit to get feedback on their well-intentioned but crappy plan or policy, it is too late. Trickle-Down Community Engagement sucks and is insulting. The sector needs to stop only supporting major organizations and hope that magically the people disproportionately affected whom we don\u2019t fund will join in. Or at the very least, we should stop whining about it when they don\u2019t. We organizations led by marginalized communities are tired and irritated at excuses like \u201cWe can\u2019t invest in you guys because you\u2019re too small,\u201d coupled with the constant requests for us to be involved. Don\u2019t just give three drops of water to your rainbow carrots, wonder why they aren\u2019t growing, and then whine about the lack of color in your salad. As I said, everyone is well-intentioned. But Trickle-Down Community Engagement is harmful, and we need to all be aware of it and put a stop to it: Funders: Review your investments for every priority. Are the issues you are trying to address disproportionately affecting some groups? Are those groups getting equitably funded and supported or are you just giving them token funding? Are they leading the effort or just playing bit parts on the side? If you are funding mainstream organizations to address challenges affecting marginalized communities, look at their budget request to see how much of it is to be shared with partner organizations that are led by affected communities. Stop being fooled by well-intentioned mainstream efforts that claim to represent marginalized communities but that are only tokenizing and using them. I\u2019ve seen a well-funded coalition list over 80 diverse organizations as member, but on closer examination, several of these groups aren\u2019t aware that they are members, or they no longer even exist! Donors: See above paragraph. In addition, know that organizations led by marginalized communities tend to be smaller, so they need your support more. Unfortunately, they don\u2019t have the same relationship with you or the same marketing and development capacity as bigger and better known organizations. Seek them out. Your support matters. Mainstream organizations: Sorry, it seems like I\u2019ve been beating up on you a lot. That\u2019s not my intentions. You guys do awesome stuff and play critical roles. But review your projects and budgets, and examine your role and the dynamics you are contributing to. Are you building in funding to share with community partners, or are you just asking people to do stuff for free in the name of \u201ccommunity engagement\u201d? Are you siphoning funding to address issues that other nonprofits should be tackling but they don\u2019t yet have the capacity? Are you mentoring smaller nonprofits through strategic partnerships? Are you serving as an advocate for these groups, since you have better relationships with funders? Organizations led by marginalized communities: Learn when to say yes and when to say no. I\u2019ve seen too many small nonprofits agree to do outreach, to be partners, to even run programs for tiny amounts of funding. I\u2019ve done it myself. My last organization, when it was much smaller, partnered with a bigger org who could not reach students of color. They asked us to organize a 2-hour workshop for over 100 diverse kids each month for a year. You know how much we got to do that? $2500 total, and we had to itemize and have receipts for every pencil we bought! The big organization who \u201cpartnered\u201d with us got all the credit, of course. All of us can be so na\u00efve, signing on to coalitions without researching first, lending our names to summits without due diligence, doing outreach and translation for free. It just perpetuates a terrible and ineffective system that continues to leave our communities behind. Learn to say no, to give feedback firmly, and to build strategic relationships. Equity, diversity, inclusion, community engagement, etc. those are all good, but they can also be irritating, misleading, and even harmful if not done right. Trickle-Down Community Engagement is an example of good-intention poorly executed. If we want marginalized communities to be engaged, we need to fund and support them directly to be engaged. Community Engagement cannot be the icing on the chocolate cake of equity and social justice. It is the chocolate!